vision piece

Another picture of marjan from yesterday, and a few pictures of our guests (7 total)from this past weekend.

These are all photos from yesterday, first meal of rice cereal for the baby, painting gone crazy, and visit to my mom's house, and first day janan was successful peeing in toilet...no photos of THAT!

Katie's birthday cake Originally uploaded by rosechildren . On my sister's birthday Marjan and I served cake...is she asleep, or trying to see around mommy?

Each child, it is amazing!, recreates the family space, carving out an identity in the spectrum of the family which we didn't realize was needed. And, in so doing recreates all those around him/her. Like a box of crayons left out in the sun too long, the personalities of the others leave portions of themselves which can not be taken away or ever be left in it's "pure" form. I look to my oldest son as an example. Prior to my second son being born, he didn't know how to ask for affection, or socialize with others. He has since made great strides in learning how to socialize with other children, and now is learning how to communicate and be nurturing/loving/gentle from his little sister(with an intense love for all that is female and pink!) I wonder what my other children would be like had they been only children. All of this makes me contemplate how we are moulded by each other, and how each new relationship (diversity emphasized) recreates us, making us more...

How much of where we find ourselves in life is related to the attachment/or lack of to our parents? How can I insure that I will not repeat the negatives of my upbringing? New book(to me) "It's Not My Fault" by Patricia Romano McGraw http://www.amazon.com/ How can relationships, with other people and with God heal us? There is so much healing to happen in the world. New concept/discipline approach(to me) Love and Logic http://www.loveandlogic.com/